So About This Happiness Thing Everyone’s Been Talking About
Happiness is to everyday humans what dark matter is to physicists. You know it’s out there, you know it’s important, but you can’t put your finger on how to get to it or what it even is.
We tend to perceive happiness as a binary existence - either it’s true or false - it’s either 100% or 0%. Rottentomatoes is great for movie ratings but 71% isn’t good enough for our happiness.
Well, happiness has a language problem.
If you know Spanish, it’s like the difference between the verbs Estar and Ser. They both mean “to be” but not in the same way. One is a temporary state, the other is an identity. You can be both hungry and tall, but only one changes by the minute.
So, feeling happy and being happy are two colossally different things. One is happiness, the other is Happiness.
Mistaking happiness for Happiness is like trying to get one side of a Rubix cube done but neglecting the rest. It’s not that the one side is worthless, it’s just that there is more to the puzzle.
happiness vs. Happiness
happiness is the big smiles
Happiness is the little things
happiness is your outward mood Happiness is your silent disposition
happiness is the raise you get
Happiness is the impact you have
happiness is an on/off switch
Happiness is on a dimmer switch
happiness is the found acorn the squirrel eats in the fall
Happiness is the stored acorn the squirrel eats in the winter
happiness is the nice things people say about you to your face
Happiness is the nice things people say about you when you’re not there
happiness is when you get what you expect
Happiness is when you get respect
happiness is what takes your breath away
Happiness is what no one can ever take away from you
happiness is the moment
Happiness is the story
You don’t need to feel happy to be Happy. You don’t need to be Happy to feel happy.
On Your Raft
Our Happiness percentage is an ever-changing, unique-to-every-individual concoction of:
Our work/career experience
What we do/have done for leisure
Who we surround ourselves with
What those people think of us
What we think other people think of us
What we think of us
And let's say that the overall Happiness percentage mimicked the amount of air in your raft as you were out on the ocean of life. 0% air in your raft and you sink like a brick. 100% air and your pontoons are filled to the brim.
Happiness is cumulative in the sense that the air we pump into the raft takes up more space as we keep pumping. But it’s not altogether cumulative because we are genetically predisposed to releasing air through a tiny puncture we all have.
The hole in our rafts reflect our constant need to feel challenged, respected, purposeful and engaged in some manner.
Therefore, there is no specific life occurrence - money in the bank, job title, countries visited, parties attended, starting a family, retiring - that that will keep our rafts bloated with bliss. There is no Nirvana of Happiness where we can plant our flag down and state universally, “I’ve made it. I’m finally Happy.”
You don't reach Happiness, you tend to Happiness.
The good news is that the air won’t seep out quickly. We can go from 85% to 75% and not even notice it that much because our raft is comfortably floating. But eventually we'll feel a stir, an itch or an impulse for a new injection of Happiness and we'll have to man the pump again.
The idea is to get to a point in your life where you somewhat understand your total air capacity, you're comfortable with your current buoyancy and where it doesn't feel so laborious to pump air in when the time does come.
So Happiness isn’t a destination, it’s a pursuit. Not a pursuit of the absence of problems (that’s happiness), but a pursuit of better problems.
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